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Newark, NJ-- While
holiday songs focus on “chesnuts roasting on an open fire,” and
other joys of the season, many people experience feelings of
isolation and depression during
the holidays. In fact, numerous studies confirm that there is
an increase in both the numbers and severity of calls by depressed
individuals to crisis hotlines during this time.
“Many people have difficulty living up to the unreal expectations
of the perfect holiday as portrayed in movies and magazines," says
Tess Medina, RN, C, BSN, MAS, Administrative Director of the Behavioral
Health Department at Newark Beth Israel Medical Center. “Family
misunderstandings and conflicts can intensify — especially
if you are together for several days. The holidays
bring about unrealistic conceptualizations of the ideal family,
and may heighten the tension between family members.”
The holiday season may also be a time of reflection
as the year ends. Ms. Medina relates that people look back and
see the losses they have incurred, the loss of a loved one through
death, divorce or separation, or the loss of a job. Facing
the holidays without a loved one or an income can be difficult.
An additional stressor is holiday spending and
socializing.
"Over eating, over drinking and over spending,
combined with a decreased amount of sleep, are a formula for
depression and mood swings,” says Ms. Medina. “Overspending
now can also mean financial worries for months to come.”
The following are suggestions from the Behavioral Health
Department at Newark Beth Israel Medical Center
for putting some sanity back into your holidays:
- Acknowledge your feelings. You cannot force
yourself to be happy just because it is the holiday season.
- Reach out. If you feel lonely or isolated,
seek out community, religious or other social events.
- Be realistic. The holidays don't have to be
perfect. As families change and grow, traditions and rituals
often change as well. Choose a few to hold on to, and be open
to creating new ones.
- Set aside differences. Try to accept family
members and friends as they are, even if they don't live up to
all your expectations. Set aside grievances until a more appropriate
time for discussion.
- Stick to a budget. Before you go gift and
food shopping, decide how much money you can afford to spend.
- Learn to say no. Friends
and colleagues will understand if you can't participate in every
project or activity.
- Don't abandon healthy habits. Don't let the
holidays become a free-for-all. Overindulgence only adds to your
stress and guilt.
- Take a breather. Make some
time for yourself. Even spending 15 minutes alone without distractions
can refresh you.
- Seek professional help if you need it. If
feelings of sadness or anxiety, sleeplessness or irritability,
or hopelessness persist, talk to your physician or a mental health
professional.
Mental Health Matters in Your Life
If you feel overwhelmed and unable to cope, do not let the situation
go unchecked. Newark Beth Israel Medical Center behavioral health
services include multiple levels of care, including highly specialized
medical care for clients who require it. All programs are led by
a multidisciplinary staff of experienced professionals with advanced
training and certification in all facets of behavioral health.
You can reach the Behavioral Health Department at Newark Beth Israel
Medical Center by calling (973) 926-7416.
Date: December 14, 2009
Contact: Beth Salamon
Public Relations Department
Saint Barnabas Health Care System
973-322-4926
esalamon@barnabashealth.org
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